A Life of Prayer Amidst News of Death

Tish Harrison Warren

It has been a week of heartbreaking news — brutal persecution in Iraq, the murder of a fellow Anglican clergyman, the ongoing Ebola epidemic, the Michael Brown shooting, the suicide of an American icon. We live in a world where bad news is beamed from every dark corner of the earth onto glowing screens in our homes in record time. And this week, I’ve felt undone by it all. I am grieving the darkness and sadness in the world.

For me, the news about Iraq is a particularly deep ache. Amidst the worldwide horrors that deserve to be grieved, this news hits me closer to home somehow. I am a priest. If these Iraqi children who are being murdered were in my parish, they could rightly call me mother. This evil against people who I call brother and sister — who I truly feel are my family — feels sharp and painful and overwhelming.

In the face of such horror, shouldn’t the regular rhythms of the world stop? Shouldn’t we all pause and sit and pray and weep? And yet, my daughters need a mother who goes about her ordinary day. So as children face death on the other side of the globe, I take photos of my eldest as she begins her first day of pre-K. As an Iraqi mother weeps over her son or daughter, I push my toddler through the produce section of our hippie grocery store. 

I have prayed for the people of Iraq. We are giving money to organizations that help. But it all seems so small. Going about my ordinary day feels somehow selfish. Why should I go about normal life so normally when others are suffering so extremely?

I want to do more. Something more. But I don’t know what can be done. I want to talk to an Iraqi mother, to make contact, to tell her I’m praying for her, to say I’m sorry, to ask her what she’d have me do. In frustration and desperation, I say something crazy to my husband like “Why can’t we all just get on planes and head over there?” and he stares back blankly. So I change the photo on my Facebook profile to show "solidarity" with believers around the world and it feels cheap. I fail to see how changing my profile photo affects anyone at all.

Neil Postman introduced the idea of the “low information to action ratio,” the concept that technology has made it possible to know details of suffering so remote from our everyday lives that we seemingly can do nothing in response — we have information without any clear action with which to respond. A low information to action ratio leads to callousness — we desensitize ourselves to suffering — or to despair because we are overwhelmed by the scale of world-wide suffering. We are small people who, for the most part, live quiet lives, but we have access to endless stories of pain and brokenness.  

So I’ll make little gestures toward peace. I’ll buy the fair-trade coffee. I’ll hang the laundry on the line. I’ll walk instead of drive. I’ll pass the peace on Sunday.

I’ll read my daughter a story believing that by doing so I’m honoring other mothers who are suffering, and that I’m raising a person capable of being a peacemaker. I’ll sweep up the raisins that she dropped on the floor as a tiny, insignificant way to push back the chaos and bring order and beauty.

But none of this will help stop the persecution in Iraq. Even my small donation to an organization will only aid victims. I cannot stop evil men from hurting strangers I love on the other side of an ocean. My ordinary day feels ridiculous and futile.

In this world where news of torture and death runs like a ticker through my day, I’m realizing in a new way that I must learn to pray. I must learn to sit in silence with a God who is all-powerful and all-loving in the mystery of horrendous suffering. I must learn to lift up my sisters and brothers without ceasing. I must learn to pray ordinary prayers for them in my small way and believe that God makes those prayers matter. I have to stretch toward the belief that prayer is more powerful than death, that God can change evil men or stop them more certainly than violence can, that there is a Rescuer for those who suffer.

When I was just out of college and working among the poor, a friend, an older and wiser chain-smoking Franciscan friar, commented on the intensity of my life and work at that time and said, “You don’t have the kind of prayer life and rhythms of contemplation to sustain the work you are doing.” He warned that I was going to burn out. I was surrounded by too much suffering to be able to subsist without more rest, more prayer, more quiet days, more solitude, more silence, more listening. He was right. Within a few years, I was spent.

It’s getting to the point that I can’t even read the news or go on Facebook without needing a sustaining life of prayer, the kind of robust contemplative life that allows me to remain vulnerable and hopeful in a world of suffering.

Prayer is not merely a pious consolation prize, something we do when we don’t know what else to do. It is not the property of hermetic saints and propriety. It is earthy and gritty and groaning and vulnerable and fierce. And it is sustenance. I want to learn to cultivate a life of prayer in the midst of a suffering world.

I may never get to tell an Iraqi mother that I am so sorry for her loss, I may not be able to hold her hand or pray with her, I may not be able to stop this kind of evil. But in my daily life, I need to learn to cling to prayer and lean into silence even as I read news.

Tish Harrison Warren is a priest in the Anglican Church in North America and works with InterVarsity Women in the Academy & Professions. Her work has appeared in The Well, her.meneutics, Christianity Today, Art House America, Christ and Pop Culture, and others. Her first book, Liturgy of the Ordinary: Sacred Practices in Everyday Life, releases in December. Find her at tishharrisonwarren.com or on twitter @Tish_H_Warren. 

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Apr 16, 2015 3:36PM by deborah

That is a nice article! I am a Coptic guy who loves the history of my country, Egypt, which is full of sadness and rich in christian faith. If you try to go over the history of the Coptic church during the first four centuries, you will find a non negligible similarity between persecution of Christians during the early centuries and what is happening in Iraq these days. Not only that, if you keep reading the history of the middle east starting from 1400 years ago, you will find the same persecution, the same writing, the same sad words that Christians in Iraq are hearing now "you either convert, pay 'gizya' (pay money to avoid being killed), or to be killed". Moreover, discrimination against Christian families in the past has the similar style as in the present. For example, the picture you post in this blog has the 'N' meaning 'nosrani' (follower of Jesus of Nazareth), which is written at the doors of the christian residences in Iraq. In the history, Christians had to wear necklaces with a heavy cross, to mark a blue circle around their necks so that they become distinguishable from the non Christians. The news has no surprise, what happened in the history is repeated again and again in different ways.

Aug 18, 2014 11:24AM by Anonymous

I needed this. The martyrdom of the Iraqi Christians became real to me on Sunday when I looked at photos of some of the beheading victims. One was a little girl. That's stayed with me. I felt guilty for not cluing in earlier and for not raising awareness of it. I was angered by the brutality. I wanted to punish. I'm still struggling, but I've turned to prayer like crazy because I have no other recourse. I rest that she is home and got a hero's welcome as did they all who stood firm in the faith in the face of real evil. I take comfort in that and the thought that I get to spend eternity with these giants.

Aug 14, 2014 6:28PM by Grant

Thank you for writing this. It echoes my thoughts over the last few weeks. When I weep for the world and those I love but do not know and feel I cannot help, in silence and prayer I feel God weeping too and I am strengthened by His presence. Peace.

Aug 14, 2014 3:21PM by Claire Stewart

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