Giving Up and Taking Up: What we do (and don’t do) when we keep Lent

Tish Harrison Warren

Beginning on Ash Wednesday, Lent marks the 40 days before Easter (excluding Sundays).  It is a liturgical season focused on repentance, penitence, and preparation.

Most people associate Lent with the practice of "giving something up." My dad dated a Catholic girl in high school before he met my Mom. I don’t think they were very serious, and when I ask him why they broke up, he always responds, “She gave me up for Lent.” I’m not sure if this is true or not, but we all know someone who gave up something — be it coffee, chocolate, or dating my dad — for Lent.  I didn’t grow up practicing Lent, but I am now in the Anglican church where Lent is practiced by our community. Many of us fast from something (give something up) or take on a practice or do both during Lent. 
For those of us who didn’t grow up with this practice (and even many who did), there can be some misconceptions about why believers do and do not "keep Lent." These are worth addressing so we can better understand and explain why we enter into Lenten disciplines.

What We Don’t Do When We Keep Lent

  1. We don’t give things up because we think they are necessarily bad or immoral. This year, I’m avoiding Facebook during Lent, but that is not because Facebook is bad or sinful. I could make a good argument (and in fact have argued frequently) that Facebook is a good thing.  When people give up chocolate or meat or alcohol or coffee, it is not because we Christians think that if we enjoy something, it must be bad. Coffee, meat, alcohol and especially chocolate are very good things that show God’s goodness, creativity, and provision.

    Of course, Christians ought to be interested and working toward breaking habits of sin — gossip, lust, judgment, anger, pride, and so on — but this is called repentance, which is certainly not limited to Lent. I’m not giving up Facebook in the same way that I’m repenting of (and trying to give up) anxiety or impatience with my toddler. The former is a neutral or even good thing that I am choosing to fast from for a season. The latter is a manifestation of my brokenness and is a way that I’m failing to love. I need to allow God to change and heal that brokenness.
  2. We don’t practice Lent to earn anything from God.  Salvation is received solely as a gift (we call this "grace"). And I daresay that God, who made all that is and sacrificed Himself to rescue us, is entirely unimpressed by my ability to go without sugar for 40 days. I once heard a pastor preach about how giving something up for Lent is a pointless or even harmful practice, arguing that the reason people practice Lent is because they “hate repenting.” The idea was that in Lent, people give something up to sort of “score points” with God so we don’t have to actually recognize ourselves as sinners. We can sit and bask in our own self-righteousness as we sanctimoniously say, “No, I would not like that glass of red wine, I gave it up for Lent,” and smile self-satisfied at how righteous we are. I’m sure people out there have practiced Lent in this way (though I don’t know any of them). But if you do, for the love of God (literally), drink the glass of wine. Drink two.
  3. We don’t practice Lent out of obligation or duty.  This way of thinking is the flip side of #2. We Anglicans (and those of other Christian traditions which observe the church year) don’t think God will be mad at us if we don’t practice Lent. It isn’t a legalistic obligation to avoid God’s wrath. We believe that the entirety of God’s wrath was poured out on Christ in the crucifixion. God took our punishment on himself in its entirety. We don’t have to avoid meat or chocolate for forty days to try to make some kind of (pathetically small) recompense to an angry God. Christians believe that God actually delights in us because of what Jesus did and not at all because of what we do. Lent or no Lent, we are welcomed by God.

So Why Do We Keep Lent?


  1. We practice Lent to enter into the sufferings of Christ. The stories we tell ourselves about reality shape us. They shape who we are, what we believe, and what we desire. Christians want not only to believe the story about Jesus cognitively but to get it into us — into our very bones.  It’s the difference between assenting to the fact that Bono is an Irish rock star and finding yourself screaming along with him at a U2 concert. We want to think, confess, and understand, but also to encounter, worship, and be transformed by God. The primary way we do this is through liturgy in both word (reading and preaching about the Bible) and sacrament (baptism and the Eucharist). But we also do this through practicing the liturgical seasons like Lent. In order to know the Good News about Jesus holistically, beyond something that we work out in our brains like a word problem, we try to enter into this story with our bodies.

    I have a friend who gives up meat and dairy every Lent. She is an incredibly gifted chef and total foodie. Her passion for butter rivals even mine (and I would go to a church made entirely of butter if I could). Lent is hard for her, as you’d imagine. But she isn’t joylessly trudging through the season. She takes up this yearly practice with even a sort of humble gusto because it teaches her, year by year, through her stomach, that Jesus — who was in the very place of perfection, a place with pleasures more abundant and powerful than even (dare we imagine it?) the best, richest butter — left that place to be with us and called it a joy to do so. Her practice allows her to taste a tiny thimble-full of what Jesus experienced in his self-emptying and that helps her to be shaped by His story.
  2. We practice Lent because it reveals our idolatry and helps us to repent. There are certain things that are good in themselves but that hold too much power in our life.  When there is something without which we feel like life is meaningless or that we catch ourselves thinking we’d "simply die" without, it is likely occupying a place in our life that it was never meant to hold.

    I have a friend who gave up alcohol for Lent one year. He’s not an alcoholic, but he found that he was relying on alcohol to get through social events in a way he felt was unhealthy. Now, he still drinks alcohol, but after his Lenten fast he returned to it freer, knowing that it was not what made him okay, and he is able to abstain from it more readily. Some of us would do well to limit our working hours or practice Sabbath-keeping over Lent to repent for how we rely on work or busyness to make us feel okay. I have a friend who gave up her smartphone for Lent because she felt like technology had become, in some sense, a god in her life. She didn’t know how to live without being plugged in 24/7, so Lent was an experiment in letting go of a false god to rely on the true God.
  3. We practice Lent in order to rid ourselves of distractions and focus on the Real.  We live in a noisy world. Much vies for our attention. The late priest and writer, Henri Nouwen wrote about the busyness and restlessness of American life:

    "…to celebrate life together, to be together in community, to simply enjoy the beauty of creation, the love of people and the goodness of God — those seem faraway ideals. There seems to be a mountain of obstacles preventing people from being where their hearts want to be….In this hectic, pressured, competitive, exhausting context, who can really hear me? I even wonder how long I myself can stay in touch with the voice of the spirit when the demons of this world make so much noise." (Road to Daybreak, pg. 184)

    Part of the reason that I am giving up Facebook this year is that, as much as it helps to keep me connected with others, it can add to the white noise of my life, drowning out the rhythms of beauty and grace around me. I hope to spend more time journaling during Lent, especially noting the desolation and consolation of each day, a practice that has helped me notice God at work in my life, take stock of the texture of the day, and cultivate gratitude. For me, this year, Lent is an intentional turning away from distraction and toward practices that help to quiet my noisy heart.

    A few years ago I began Lent burnt out and harried. I had a new baby and was working in ministry. My husband and I were struggling and I felt spent. Exhausted and depleted, I didn’t know what to give up for Lent. I was nursing, so fasting from food or drink wasn’t an option. And I felt stretched so thin, that the thought of any more deprivation made me feel unhinged. A very wise friend and priest said to me, “Don’t give anything up for Lent this year. Your whole life is Lent right now.” So that year, my Lenten practice was to leave my daughter with my husband once a week, walk to my favorite neighborhood coffee shop, and read a novel for an hour.  Self-denial it was not. This habit was a joy and the most quieting time of my week.  I intentionally chose the novel The Book of Sorrows by Walter Wangerin because it is the perfect Lenten book, a story of sin and redemption in a community. During that Easter season, I had a powerful, transformative spiritual experience when God met me and encouraged me through a particular scene in that story. 

    But that would not have happened had I not, by God’s grace and the encouragement of my community, intentionally made space for slowness and reading in what felt like a suffocatingly cramped life.
  4. We practice Lent to prepare for Easter. One of my favorite characteristics of the Christian year is that there is never a season of celebration without a season of preparation preceding it.  Whether it be Oprah, Burger King, or Joel Olsteen, the myth of our culture is that we must always be happy, fulfilled, and living our best life now!  Yet, while we are all maniacally pursuing happiness, anxiety, and depression are commonplace. 

    The truth of our brokenness is relentless even in the midst of wealth, success, popularity, or a perfectly lit, magazine-cover home.   The Christian calendar allows us time to admit the reality that things are not the way they are supposed to be, a reality our hearts know all too well.

    Easter is all about the hope of the resurrection, but there can be no resurrection without death first. It can be so tempting to jump ahead in the story, to focus on the joy of the resurrection and skip over the agony of the cross. Who wants to remember the crucifixion? It is painful, scornful, raw, and dark. But, only when we wait, for a moment, in that humiliating, vulnerable place can the resurrection truly be good news to us. When a King comes, there is always plenty to do to get ready for Him. And so through these daily, earthy habits, we prepare to celebrate our coming King.

The Mystery of Grace in Lent

At the end of the day, sharing in Christ’s sufferings, repentance from idolatry, quietness and Christ-centeredness, and preparation for Easter are all a gift of grace. The practice of Lent is a means of grace, but grace itself is a mystery that grips us however buttoned-up or sloppy our Lenten practice is.  The best thing I have read about Lent this season was a little note that my priest, Fr. Thomas McKenzie, sent out in our church’s Lenten worship schedule. I can say nothing better:
Please remember that keeping Lent is designed to make more room for the Holy Spirit in your life.  Keeping Lent may or may not lead to feelings of joy, sorrow, happiness, or anger.  You may or may not alienate a friend, have a spiritual experience, lose weight, or feel grouchy at work.  Keeping Lent will not make you more holy or beloved in the eyes of God.  Keeping Lent will not save you.
Keep Lent anyway.

Tish Harrison Warren is a priest in the Anglican Church in North America. After eight years with InterVarsity Graduate and Faculty Ministries, she now serves as Co-Associate Rector at Church of the Ascension in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She writes regularly for The Well, CT Women (formerly her.meneutics), and Christianity Today. Her work has also appeared in Comment Magazine, Christ and Pop Culture, Art House America, and elsewhere. She is author of Liturgy of the Ordinary: Sacred Practices in Everyday Life (IVP). She and her husband Jonathan have two young daughters.


Love the insight on Lent it helps me in understanding my own decisions. Love the end quote from Fr Thomas McKenzie. I'm thinking of quoting it before my congregation is this OK. You have my email. I look forward to your response.

Mar 1, 2016 11:49PM by Michael R. Carter

Love the insight on Lent it helps me in understanding my own decisions. Love the end quote from Fr Thomas McKenzie. I'm thinking of quoting it before my congregation is this OK. You have my email. I look forward to your response.

Mar 1, 2016 11:48PM by Michael R. Carter

Every day we get into the same routine and we take things for granted. We live in such a fast-paced society, Lent actually gives me the opportunity to slow down and realize how much we take for granted.

Interesting article Tish :)

May 26, 2014 9:29AM by Amanda G

I liked this site a lot. It clearly speaks about how Christianity is clearly related to lent and its season. Christians generally give up during lent to show their act of sacrifice. Anyways thanks a lot for sharing the details.

Jan 28, 2014 5:52AM by Weltin

Yet another point is that self-denial builds virtue. In giving up , we may prefer the term "denying myself," something that is good and wholesome and lawful (according to God) to enjoy, I decrease in my love for myself and the world and increase in my love for God. My focus turns inward. I become more aware of what my "treasure" is, and so see by that where my heart REALLY is. It is a constant spiritual reality check...and thus I grow in virtue. I know many, many people who have turned off their television sets for the entire length of Lent. To a person, each has told me that when he turns that set back on he is horrified at the worldliness of our the insidious deconstruction and dismantling of morals and faith which are overwhelmingly present. Each person has confided that he absolutely didn't see television for what it truly was while he was immersed in popular culture. Lent, and focusing on Christ, revealed the truth. And why not? Jesus did say He IS the TRUTH. Many of these people refused to go back to regular programming. Their new litmus test for determining what a "good" TV programs is has become: Does this show/movie glorify God? Would I be comfortable watching this if Christ were sitting in the room with me? (Because He is, you know.) They now watch Christian programming and movies exclusively, and leave the secular stuff alone.

Mar 8, 2013 8:29AM by

I give meat up on Fridays to see if I can actually do it. It's more of a personal challenge for me, not to impress God or realize what Christ has given up for the human kind. My husband couldn't last 1 Friday, because he simply forgot. He had bacon-bits on his salad. And that is where the challenge comes in. Every day we get into the same routine and we take things for granted. We live in such a fast paced society, Lent actually gives me the opportunity to slow down and realize how much we take for granted.
2 years ago I gave up facebook completely for lent. I haven't been back since.

Feb 19, 2013 11:38AM by

The argument posted above (the second one, by an anonymous poster) does not make much sense to me.

"it is clear that simply adding any man-made "worship" or "tradition" to the worship and traditions God had given in his word is strictly forbidden"

What about Sunday school, then? What about celebrating Christmas and worshipping God through remembering the birth of our Savior? What about having a daily "quiet time"? Building a chapel? All these are actions and traditions that Christians often use to worship and grow in their faith, however none of them are specifically outlined in scripture.

It would be one thing if Tish were maintaining that keeping Lent is a necessary practice for Christians....that it is required for salvation or sanctification. Or that the act of keeping Lent in and of itself has any merit in worship if it isn't from the heart.

Because we are humans living in a physical world, we have no choice but to use time, space, and matter in our worship, oftentimes in ways that aren't expressly commanded in scripture. Traditions are inevitable. What matters is whether or not they are empty actions or attempts at self-righteousness. My prayer is that God would inhabit our traditions and in His grace use them to draw us closer to HIm.

Feb 15, 2013 7:15PM by

Nice piece! No obligation, but some good opportunities. Helpful to think not only in terms of giving up, but also of taking up (I recall Jesus' admonition to "take up" our cross...). Thank you, Tish .

Feb 14, 2013 3:48PM by

"Then the Pharisees and scribes asked Him, "Why do Your disciples not walk according to the tradition of the elders, but eat bread with unwashed hands?" He answered and said to them, "Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written: `This people honors Me with their lips, but their heart is far from Me. And in vain they worship Me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men'" (Mark 7:1-7).

There is a kind of worship which Jesus says is in vain; and it’s a kind of worship which almost everyone was practicing. It had been handed down from the elders. It appears to “honor” God externally; but it reveals hypocritical hearts. Of course, there’s the danger that a man-made tradition can contradict the Word of God (which Jesus points out starting in verse 8). But in Mark 7:1-7, and in may places, it is clear that simply adding any man-made "worship" or "tradition" to the worship and traditions God had given in his word is strictly forbidden--even something as innocent, as good, and as helpful as the washing of hands (notwithstanding the "good" spiritual lessons such traditions taught the people).

We must beware of human rituals that are "according to the tradition of men, according to the basic principles of the world, and not according to Christ” (Col 2:8). "Do not touch, do not taste, do not handle, which all concern things which perish with the using—according to the command-ments and doctrines of men? These things indeed have an appearance of wisdom in self-imposed religion [the old translation called it 'will-worship'], false humility, and neglect of the body, but are of no value against the indulgence of the flesh.” The traditions of men created a critical struggle in the times of Christ and his Apostles, and they wrote and spoke in order to defend the true faith--AND PRACTICE--which come from God alone.

Feb 14, 2013 2:36PM by

Yes, I think Tish would agree with you that any practice of Lent should come from the heart. Empty, self-righteous practices are not good for anyone. I appreciate the way Tish gives us guidance in examining our own hearts and seeking what Lenten practice (if any) might help us to grow closer to God. Thanks for underscoring that point!

Feb 14, 2013 11:26PM by Ann_Boyd

Last year I gave up sweets and alcohol for Lent. I didn't think it would make much difference in my life because I only drink beer or wine occassionally and don't eat dessert or sweets regularly either. But I was amazed at how much a difference it did make not to open that bottle of wine with the pizza or the beer with the brats. My reactiosn showed me a side of myself I had been keeping in the closet much too long, and the "Lord, have mercy!" during church became heartfelt and sincere. The Catholic church that we attend has a wonderful midnight service on Easter Saturday. Afterwards there are refreshments in the fellowship hall and the chocolates, Easter eggs and snacks taste wonderful after 40 days without -- not to mention a good glass of wine to go with them!

Feb 14, 2013 10:50AM by

Thank you for this. I am mulling over in what way I might be called to enter into Christ's suffering this season.

Feb 14, 2013 9:52AM by

Well stated and and full. Funny to see after finishing you are at Vanderbilt. I did my MDIV there and led the PCUSA ministry for ten years. Don Paul is an old friend. Glad you are there.

Feb 13, 2013 8:29AM by

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